Dating for sex only
Deep down, she doesn't really enjoy being with him. Since "girls use sex to get love, and guys use love to get sex," a couple will have sex before marriage. The guy does it because he wants it even more than the relationship itself. Now that I'm out of college and many people around me are getting married, I'm seeing it happen all the time.Then, after the marriage, the woman has what she wants: a commitment from the man. And, because she may be harboring resentment because he had sex with her before they were married, she is now not interested in sex. The antidote: waiting for marriage to have sex will give the man a greater respect for his wife and the woman a greater respect for her husband.I've seen this happen with countless relationships, not just others of my own, but those of many other people.And I think there's a reason for this, which I'll explain next.
When I was in college, I remember having an experience that I referred to as a "love hangover." After being with a girl, the next morning I always felt an emptiness.And the guy -- who doesn't treasure his wife because of the sex before marriage -- still wants sex but not as a total bonding experience with his wife. And consequently they'll have better and more frequent sex because they respect each other more and love each other more deeply.Sex is a mysterious thing that causes a deep bond between people, even if we call it "casual." The problem is this: the more I bond with other girls, the less I'll be able to bond with my future wife.That's something you won't see on TV or in the movies, but it happens a lot. The "love hangover" was a strange occurrence for me.Mainly because when I was in college, sex was my "god." As a male, it's what I thought about morning, noon and night. If you have, you should stop and consider, "Why is that?
The two things were this: 1) I lost respect for the girl (even though I didn't want to); and 2) she began to mistrust me (even though she didn't want to).